The Sexless Marriage: Getting Reconnected
“I can’t wait to see you tonight.” “Oh, I can’t get enough of you!” “I just want to kiss your face and touch your body!” Have phrases like this gone by the wayside? Do you wonder what happened to your spouse’s interest in sex? Is there an absence of desire and passion? Do you want […]
The Sexless Marriage: Why Sexual Intimacy Fades
It feels so wonderful to be in love, especially during the early stages of a relationship. Before the reality of life sets in, the delights of new love and lust are tremendous. It’s wonderful to have the “high” of being connected and desired. It feels wonderful to experience the intense longing and desire that lead […]
Sexless Marriage: Understanding Why Passion and Sex Die
“Help! What’s gone wrong with my marriage? We used to be so passionate! The sex was hot and heavy. Now, our sex life is almost non-existent. If it goes on like this any longer, I don’t know what I?ll do.” When words of this sort pour from a client’s lips, I know there’s a lot […]
Step by Step
This past weekend I was blessed to spend a bit of time with a wonderful friend who has been part of my life since we met in eighth grade. Although he now lives in Oklahoma, it’s our good fortune that he returns ‘home’ now and again to visit his family and friends. We’ve still much […]
Vegetable Soup and Good Souls
My early morning walk found me captivated by the weighty feeling cast by the sulky gray sky. Seeming to herald rain, the mood in the air was both invigorating and ominous; I was undaunted by the looming cascade of slate-hued clouds. Pup trotting by my side, we sauntered through topaz and garnet-toned leaves; his four […]
4 Powerful Ways Fear Holds You Back (And How to Use Fear to Your Benefit!)
Do you know how fear holds you back in life? Fear is sneaky; from the inside out, it often controls us from the time we wake until the time we go to sleep. Sadly, an increasing number of people find that fear also keeps them awake at night with insomnia and horrible dreams. The truth […]
How to Prevent Sarcastic Communication from Destroying Your Marriage
You’re not alone if you’ve exclaimed, “Hey! That’s not funny!” after bearing the brunt of a “joke” that doesn’t feel at all humorous to you. Words can injure relationships more than you might imagine. Many relationships are harmed by the long-lasting scars of verbal sparring. Often disguised as joking or bantering, derisive commentary poisons intimacy […]
Adventures of a Newlywed: They Lived Quirkily Ever After
It’s no wonder that many new (and old) couples become disillusioned when it comes to romantic love. We are raised on Disneyland images of Cinderella and stories of knights rescuing their fair maidens. It is easy to romanticize marriage and secretly expect a perfect journey of never-ending bliss! How enticing it is to believe that […]
Adventures of a Newlywed: The Third Quarter
As I continue to share my rather comical newlywed journey with you, I hope my experiences help normalize the vicissitudes that are a natural-if often stressful and disorienting-part of newlywed life. In the third segment of my series on newlywed life, I explore the idea of coming to terms with shifts in identity that can […]
Adventures of a Newlywed: The Second Quarter
Ah, married life! It’s not a venture for the faint-hearted or uncommitted heart. It is, however, the perfect adventure for those inclined to create a work of art within the most sacred of personal relationships?marriage. Rilke famously quoted, “For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, […]