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Narcissism Assessment & Guide
Is there someone in your life—a romantic partner, family member, friend, boss, or co-worker—who you think is a narcissist? Do you feel stuck, confused, or powerless due to gaslighting, constant criticism, or self-absorbed behaviors? Does emotional distance and a lack of empathy leave you feeling alone, unworthy, or unloved?
If you answered “yes” to any of the above, you may be dealing with someone with a high degree of narcissistic traits or even narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). This short Narcissism Survey will help you identify where someone falls on the narcissistic spectrum. With your increased awareness, you’ll be able to create stronger boundaries, avoid unhealthy interactions, and manage your expectations.
Narcissists thrive on power and control, and they care far more about their own needs than the needs of other people. So, whether you’re dealing with an overt or covert narcissist, you’ve likely experienced a profound lack of being valued, cared for, and respected. And you may have experienced narcissistic abuse.
Narcissistic abuse involves a chronic pattern of behaviors that cause mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, or financial harm. Because a narcissist can easily have two faces (a “great person” in public and a “cruel or unfeeling person” in private), you may be filled with self-doubt. Even as the narcissist treats you with contempt or dismissiveness, you might be wondering if you’re the problem. But you’re not. You are not broken, unworthy, or unlovable. You just need a reset—time to recover and heal from the impact of narcissistic abuse.
It’s tempting to believe that a narcissist will change. But those who are extremely narcissistic—or have narcissistic personality disorder (NPD)—often have no desire to make a shift. So please don’t let a narcissistic person keep you stuck. You are worthy of love, kindness, and empathy. You deserve to be treated with respect. And healing can start here and now. If you’re tired of being controlled by a narcissist’s tactics, my free Narcissism Survey is a great place to start.
Note: If you’ve been subjected to narcissistic abuse, it’s important to seek mental health support as soon as possible. https://www.nami.org/ https://www.thehotline.org/
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EMBRACING THE POWER OF YOUR EMOTIONAL WORLD
If you are wanting to feel more in touch with yourself and your emotions, this worksheet will lead you into creating a stronger connection with your emotional world. If you do not understand your emotions and their benefits, it can be easy to feel controlled by their energy. On the other hand, if you tend to push down or ignore your emotions, they may feel foreign or frightening to you.
This worksheet will lead you into a discovery of the powerful beauty of all of your emotions. Indeed, each of the five emotions–fear, anger, sadness, disgust, or joy–is a powerful source of knowledge and energy. The work is getting to know your emotions, learning how to process them, and using them productively. As you learn to see that your emotions are one of your most valuable resources, you will find great power and ease in life.
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LOVING YOURSELF AT EVERY AGE
Our mindsets have a profound effect on how we view the aging process. No matter your age—whether you’re under 30, over 60, or somewhere in between—you may find yourself worried that you’re not as beautiful or relevant as someone younger than you. Our minds (and society) have a way of tricking us into believing that we are “less than” as we age, but this is far from the truth. When we mindfully embrace positive attitudes and healthy behaviors, we can find joy, delight, and wellbeing in every stage of life.
This worksheet will lead you into embracing yourself at every age. The journey involves mindfully looking at how we unconsciously let the forces of internal ageism (i.e., self-ageism) and external ageism affect our selflove and self-esteem. As you delve into gentle self-discovery about your relationship with the aging process, you’ll find yourself falling in love with the beautiful face in the mirror just a bit more every day.
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BUILDING YOUR SELF-ESTEEM
Do you want to feel truly great about yourself? Would you like to feel at ease wherever you are? Do you wish you felt more comfortable in your own skin? Do you want to be your best self and attract the love you deserve? If so, this powerful “Your Journey” self-esteem worksheet is meant just for you.
As you create a foundation of strong self-esteem, you’ll feel empowered by knowing you deserve to be loved for all of who you are! Solid self-esteem is rooted in love, respect, tolerance, and compassion. Without solid self-esteem, you may struggle with a chronic inner voice of self-doubt and even self-loathing. Low selfesteem may leave you feeling unlovable, anxious, and depressed. You may find yourself retreating into a gloomy world where you feel small and invisible. On the other hand, you might find yourself masking low self-esteem with a people-pleasing attitude, a false “happy face,” showy behavior, or self-absorbed tendencies. Low self-esteem often results in a sense of not being your best self—or even knowing what your best self looks like.
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CREATING LOVING SELF-AWARENESS
Are you tired of trying to be perfect, get (or receive) perfect love, or live in perfect ways? If so, this journey can bring you greater self-love and self-understanding. As you let go of the impossible ideals of perfection, you’ll begin to discover the freedom and joy that your body, mind, and spirit crave.
Your journey into the world of imperfect love—healthy love—can be fostered by delving into the exercises designed to improve your self-awareness and self-love. As you gently explore your inner world with these self-reflective exercises, you’ll get a taste for the empowering benefits of imperfect love. Move at your own pace, completing the exercises as they feel appropriate and helpful. There are no right or wrong answers; the overarching goal is to mindfully deepen your personal awareness and understanding.
Created with Joy by Dr. Carla Marie Manly
